Soulmates, maybe you don’t believe in them. Maybe you think that you choose who you love and there is no such thing as fate. Well, I can’t say I didn’t agree with you for a long time. You can absolutely choose who you want to love and to let someone be in your life, but you can not choose when it comes to soulmates. And once you know, you know. It’s this seemingly uncontrollable draw to one another, something like magic really. You understand things about each other no one else could, you don’t have to explain yourself because it is as if you have found another piece of you. Someone to dream with, someone to grow with, and someone to live with just enjoying ordinary things.
It’s a beautifully scary thing to find your soulmate. You want to hold on to them so tightly and keep them with you always once you find them. All the while knowing you can’t do that and more importantly you don’t need to cling to it because it is a force the universe is pushing you two together. You have to let each other breathe and grow individually just as much as you should be growing together as a couple of young and in love wild things.
Just a couple of things that I have found throughout these first few months:
- You will undoubtedly be incredibly hard on each other. Knowing each other’s full potential and never wanting less. Relentless. Pushing each other to be the best version of yourself. It’s exhausting at some points. But it is so natural and inescapable.
- You will bicker almost right off the bat about the silliest things. Stop. Try to push those silly tendencies away, as hard as it may be.
- Do nice things for your loved one. Do little things for each other: make breakfast, slip a card in their bag before work, buy them their favorite ice cream. Whatever it is, something that is important is to think about someone else as much as you do about yourself, better yet think about them before you think about yourself. It is a truly beautiful relationship that comes from small acts of kindness to each other and focusing on the other person’s needs before your own.
And to my one and only, soulmate. Thank you for having so much faith in who I am. Thank you for continuing to dream another dream with me. Most importantly though, thank you for being a constant light in my life, one of optimism, courage, and compassion. You truly are more than I ever could have dreamed.To all of you out there wrestling with anything less than this, let me give you a few new ideas. Leave. Don’t settle. Stop being scared.
Move forward with your life and making it everything you ever dreamed of or even more than your dreams. Please don’t think someone that is enough is your soulmate. There is SO much more out there, you can have the life you always wanted if you allow yourself to. If you wake up in the morning and you think you are with the wrong person and too scared to leave, take it from me and just do it. You will thank yourself as soon as you make that huge first step towards your better tomorrow. It is never easy, but love is always worth the risk.
I am always rooting for you. I am always rooting for love. I am always rooting for another better tomorrow.
Please always remember, live lightly and love courageously my dear readers.